Different Types of Friendship: Should Bolanle join the soccer club or tutor Hawa?

By AristotleRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 9.1
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Consider a group of friends who play together at recess. Some are friends because they enjoy the same games (pleasure), while others help each other with schoolwork (utility). Understanding why they are friends can help them appreciate their relationships more.

The Choice

Should Bolanle join the soccer club or tutor Hawa?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 9.1
Word Count
329 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Bolanle and Hawa have been friends since the beginning of middle school. Bolanle enjoys spending time with Hawa because they share a love for soccer and often play together after school. Recently, Hawa has been struggling with math and asked Bolanle for help. Bolanle is good at math and has been tutoring Hawa, which has strengthened their friendship. However, a new girl, Amina, has joined their class and is also interested in soccer. Amina is very skilled, and Bolanle enjoys playing with her too. One day, Amina invites Bolanle to join a new soccer club that meets at the same time Bolanle usually tutors Hawa. Bolanle is excited about the opportunity to improve her soccer skills and make new friends, but she also values her friendship with Hawa and wants to continue helping her. Bolanle Every option has its cost.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Compassion
vs
Community

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Join the soccer club with Amina.

B

Continue tutoring Hawa.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How do different types of friendships play a role in Bolanle's decision?

  3. 3

    What are the potential consequences of each choice for Bolanle's friendships?

  4. 4

    How might Aristotle advise Bolanle in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Aristotle

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Different Types of Friendship — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Different Types of Friendship — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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