Nature of True Friendship: Should Olivia confront Ren or stay silent?

By AristotleRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 7.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

If a friend starts making bad choices, like bullying others, it might be hard to stay friends. This shows that true friends should support each other in being good, not just stick together for fun.

The Choice

Should Olivia confront Ren or stay silent?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.4
Word Count
287 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Olivia and Ren have known each other long enough to know exactly which buttons not to push. Recently, Olivia noticed a change in Ren's behavior. Ren started hanging out with a new group at school, and Olivia heard rumors that Ren had been bullying a younger student. Olivia was shocked and didn't want to believe it at first. However, when she saw Ren teasing the student during lunch, she felt torn. Olivia values her friendship with Ren but also believes in kindness and standing up for others. She knows that true friends should encourage each other to be better, not worse. Olivia

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Compassion
vs
Honesty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Confront Ren about the bullying.

B

Stay silent to maintain the friendship.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why is it important to stand up against bullying?

  3. 3

    How can friendships change when values differ?

  4. 4

    How might Aristotle advise Olivia in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Aristotle

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Nature of True Friendship — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Nature of True Friendship — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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