Overview
If a friend is upset about losing a game, instead of feeling sad for them, a child can remind themselves that their friend's feelings are based on their thoughts about losing, and they can offer support without becoming upset themselves.
The Choice
Should Lily empathize with Ava or offer perspective?
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 8.2
- Word Count
- 311 words
- Published
- Jun 7, 2025
The Dilemma
Lily and Ava have been inseparable since the third grade, always pushing each other to try new things. After a tough match, Ava is visibly upset because she missed a crucial penalty kick that could have won them the game. As they walk home, Ava expresses her frustration, saying she feels like she let the whole team down. Lily, who also feels disappointed about the loss, notices that Ava's mood is affecting her own. She remembers a lesson from her philosophy class about how people's feelings often stem from their opinions about events rather than the events themselves. Lily Something has to give.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Empathize with Ava's disappointment.
Offer Ava a different perspective.
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
Why might Ava feel like she let the team down?
- 3
How can Lily support Ava without feeling upset herself?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Lily in this situation?
- 5
Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
Take a moment to form your own thoughts first, then click to explore philosophical perspectives.
