The Nature of Happiness: Clara must choose to tell Chen or join herself.

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.0
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

A teenager might want to go to a concert but can't get tickets. Instead of feeling upset, they can choose to enjoy a movie night with friends at home, finding joy in what they have instead of what they lack.

The Choice

Clara must choose to tell Chen or join herself.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.95961904761905
Word Count
336 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are best friends who love playing soccer. One day, Clara finds out that a new soccer club is starting at school, but there's only one spot left. Chen has been talking about joining a club for weeks, but Clara really wants to join too. Clara knows that if she tells Chen about the club, he might take the last spot. On the other hand, if she keeps it to herself, she can join and enjoy the game she loves. Clara now faces a choice: (A) tell Chen about the soccer club or (B) keep it a secret and join herself.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Fairness

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Tell Chen about the soccer club

B

Keep it a secret and join herself

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of happiness apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Nature of Happiness — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Nature of Happiness — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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