Acting with Decency and Patience: Clara must choose between using a shortcut or learning.

By EpictetusSchool & Academic Life2 min readGrade 8.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine you are at a birthday party and everyone is waiting for the cake. Instead of getting upset that you can't have a piece yet, you enjoy the moment and wait patiently until it's your turn, appreciating the fun with friends.

The Choice

Clara must choose between using a shortcut or learning.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.352121212121215
Word Count
354 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are in their school's computer lab working on a group project. Their friend, Mia, has found a shortcut to finish the project faster by using a pre-made template online. Clara knows that using the template would mean they wouldn't learn the skills the project is meant to teach. Chen, however, is eager to finish quickly so they can all go to the new arcade that just opened. Clara is torn between the immediate fun of the arcade and the long-term benefit of learning. She also worries about disappointing her friends if she insists on doing the project the hard way. Clara now faces a choice: (A) use the template and finish quickly, or (B) work through the project manually and learn the intended skills.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Autonomy
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Use the template for quick completion

B

Work manually to learn the skills

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'Acting with Decency and Patience' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Can you think of a time you had to choose between fun and learning?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Acting with Decency and Patience — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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