Perspective on Loss: Anders must choose to accept the loss or search.

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 6.9
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

A child loses their favorite toy. Instead of feeling sad about the loss, they think of it as returning the toy to where it belongs, helping them feel less upset and more accepting of the situation.

The Choice

Anders must choose to accept the loss or search.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 6.8899886441062925
Word Count
259 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Anders and Eun-Kyung are best friends who often play together after school. One day, while playing at the park, Anders accidentally leaves his favorite baseball glove behind. When he realizes it later, he feels a wave of panic and sadness. Eun-Kyung suggests they go back to look for it, but it's already dark, and they might not find it. Anders recalls his dad saying, "Sometimes, losing something is like giving it back to where it belongs." This thought calms him a bit, but he still feels torn. Should he accept the loss, thinking of it as returning the glove, or insist on searching for it, hoping it's still there? Anders now faces a choice: (A) accept the loss and move on, or (B) go back to search for the glove.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Compassion
vs
Self-Discipline

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Accept the loss and move on

B

Search for the glove again

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does thinking of loss as returning help Anders?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Anders here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Perspective on Loss — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Perspective on Loss — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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