Kenji must choose between practicing soccer or helping Alex.

By ConfuciusCommunity & Civic Responsibility2 min readGrade 8.9
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

When a student helps a classmate who is struggling with their homework, it not only boosts the struggling student's confidence but also makes the helper feel proud and happy, strengthening their friendship.

The Choice

Kenji must choose between practicing soccer or helping Alex.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.87546218487395
Word Count
340 words
Published
Nov 30, 2025

The Dilemma

On a rainy afternoon at the community park, Kenji and his friend Noah were practicing soccer for the upcoming match. Suddenly, they noticed a new kid, Alex, sitting alone on a nearby bench, looking upset. Kenji remembered how tough it was to be the new kid, having moved schools last year. Noah suggested they keep practicing to get ready for the game, but Kenji felt a pull to check on Alex. If they stopped to talk, they might lose valuable practice time, affecting their performance in the match. However, reaching out could make Alex feel welcome and possibly help him feel less lonely. Kenji stood with the soccer ball in his hands, feeling the weight of the decision. Should he prioritize his team's practice or extend a hand of kindness to Alex?

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Individual
vs
Community

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Focus on soccer practice

B

Reach out to Alex

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does this scenario reflect kindness?

  3. 3

    What might happen if Kenji chooses one option over the other?

  4. 4

    What might a thoughtful person consider before deciding?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

Conversation Starter

Use this dialogue to spark a class discussion or to help students explore both perspectives.

Mentor

What reasons might Kenji have for focusing on practice?

Student

He might think practice is important for the team’s success.

Mentor

What changes if Kenji reaches out to Alex instead?

Student

Alex might feel less lonely, and Kenji could make a new friend.

Mentor

If this happened online or at home, what would stay the same about your choice?

Student

The choice to be kind or focus on a task remains important.

Mentor

What makes option A appealing? What makes it risky?

Mentor

What makes option A risky in this situation?

Mentor

What seems appealing about option B?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Confucius

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Role of Kindness — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Role of Kindness — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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