The Dichotomy of Control: Should Talia help Chen with his part or not?

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student preparing for a big test. They can control how much they study and their attitude, but they can't control the questions on the test or how their classmates perform. By focusing on their own preparation, they can feel more confident and less anxious, regardless of the outcome.

The Choice

Should Talia help Chen with his part or not?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.719358024691363
Word Count
324 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Talia and Chen are working on a group project for their science class. They have divided the tasks equally, but Chen is struggling to complete his part. Talia has already finished her section and is feeling anxious about the overall grade. She knows she can help Chen, but that would mean doing more than her share of the work. On the other hand, if she doesn't help, their project might not be as good, and Chen might feel bad about his contribution. Talia now faces a choice: (A) help Chen with his part of the project, ensuring a better grade for both, or (B) let Chen handle his part alone, respecting the original division of tasks.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Help Chen with his project part

B

Let Chen handle his part alone

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the Dichotomy of Control apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the possible consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Talia here?

  5. 5

    Have you ever faced a similar situation with a friend?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Epictetusc. 50-c. 135

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation