Perspective on Loss: Anders must decide to tell Eun-Kyung the truth or replace the toy.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 7.5
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

If a child loses a toy, instead of feeling devastated, they can think of it as returning it to the universe, making it easier to move on and find joy in other toys.

The Choice

Anders must decide to tell Eun-Kyung the truth or replace the toy.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.472291666666667
Word Count
256 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Anders and Eun-Kyung have been friends for years, sharing everything from secrets to toys. Recently, Anders borrowed a rare action figure from Eun-Kyung, one that she cherished deeply. While playing with it at home, Anders accidentally broke it. He tried to fix it, but it was beyond repair. Now, Anders is torn. He knows that Eun-Kyung will be upset, and he feels guilty for not being more careful. On one hand, he considers telling her the truth and apologizing, accepting that their friendship might be strained. On the other hand, he thinks about replacing it with a similar toy without telling her, hoping she won't notice. Anders now faces a choice: (A) Tell Eun-Kyung the truth about the broken toy, or (B) Replace it secretly and avoid the confrontation.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Honesty
vs
Loyalty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Tell Eun-Kyung the truth

B

Replace the toy secretly

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of loss apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Anders here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Perspective on Loss — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Perspective on Loss — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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