Perspective on Loss: Anya must choose to tell Daiki about the lost ball or replace it secretly.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 7.7
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a child losing a favorite toy. Instead of feeling devastated, they can think of it as returning the toy to where it belongs, allowing them to cherish the memories instead of feeling sad about the loss.

The Choice

Anya must choose to tell Daiki about the lost ball or replace it secretly.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.650856299212602
Word Count
254 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Anya and Daiki are best friends who love playing soccer. One day, Anya accidentally kicks the ball over the fence into a neighbor's yard, where it's lost in the bushes. The ball was a special gift from Daiki's grandfather, and he feels sad about losing it. Anya feels guilty and wants to make it right. She could either confess to Daiki and offer to help find the ball or replace it, or she could quietly save up to buy a new one without telling him. Anya now faces a choice: (A) Tell Daiki and try to find the ball together, or (B) Save up and replace the ball without telling him.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Honesty
vs
Loyalty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Tell Daiki and find the ball together

B

Replace the ball without telling him

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of 'Perspective on Loss' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Anya here?

  5. 5

    Have you ever lost something important? Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Perspective on Loss — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Perspective on Loss — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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