The Banquet of Life: Clara must choose between supporting Chen or displaying her own painting.

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 7.3
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a child at a birthday party who eagerly waits for their turn to choose a slice of cake instead of rushing to grab the first piece. They understand that patience brings its own rewards and that they will eventually enjoy their treat.

The Choice

Clara must choose between supporting Chen or displaying her own painting.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.25212121212121
Word Count
220 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Clara and Chen are part of a school art club preparing for an exhibition. Clara has painted a beautiful piece, but the club's advisor, Ms. Lee, suggests displaying Chen's work instead because it fits the theme better. Clara feels disappointed but understands the importance of the exhibition's success. Chen, aware of Clara's feelings, offers to step back so Clara's painting can be displayed. Clara now faces a choice: (A) graciously accept Ms. Lee's decision and support Chen's work, or (B) accept Chen's offer and display her own painting.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Fairness

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Support Chen's painting display

B

Display her own painting

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'The Banquet of Life' apply to Clara's situation?

  3. 3

    What are the possible consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Clara here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Banquet of Life — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Banquet of Life — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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