Self-Reflection in Actions: Diego must choose between helping Jae or focusing on himself.

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.3
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Before going to a school event, a student thinks about what might happen, like meeting new people or facing unexpected situations, and prepares to stay calm and enjoy the experience no matter what happens.

The Choice

Diego must choose between helping Jae or focusing on himself.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.34876225490196
Word Count
255 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Diego and Jae are preparing for a school talent show. Diego is excited but a bit nervous about performing a solo dance. Jae, his best friend, has been practicing a magic trick and is equally nervous. On the day of the event, Jae confides in Diego that he's feeling really anxious and is considering backing out. Diego knows how much Jae has practiced and how important this is to him. However, Diego also feels the pressure of his own performance and wonders if he should focus solely on calming himself. Diego now faces a choice: (A) support Jae and help him calm down before his act, or (B) focus on his own preparation to ensure his performance goes well.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Help Jae calm down before his act

B

Focus on his own performance

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'Self-Reflection in Actions' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Diego here?

  5. 5

    Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Self-Reflection in Actions — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Self-Reflection in Actions — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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