Playing Your Role in Life: Anders must choose between focusing on his role or helping Eun-Kyung.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 8.2
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Think about being in a school play where you have a small role. Instead of feeling disappointed, you focus on doing your best to make the play enjoyable for everyone, knowing that every part is important.

The Choice

Anders must choose between focusing on his role or helping Eun-Kyung.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.197402985074628
Word Count
268 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Anders and Eun-Kyung are excited about their school's annual play. Anders, who loves acting, is disappointed to find out he has been given a minor role with only a few lines, while Eun-Kyung has a lead role. During rehearsals, Anders notices that Eun-Kyung struggles with some scenes and secretly wishes he had her part. However, he also realizes that his role, although small, is crucial for the play's success. As the performance approaches, Eun-Kyung asks Anders for help with her lines. Anders now faces a choice: (A) focus on perfecting his role to make the play successful, or (B) spend time helping Eun-Kyung, even if it means less time for his own part.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Loyalty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Perfect his own role

B

Help Eun-Kyung with her lines

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does 'playing your role in life' apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Anders here?

  5. 5

    Can you think of a time you had to choose between helping a friend and focusing on your own work?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Playing Your Role in Life — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
participation
Standard15 min

Playing Your Role in Life — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
participation