Overview
If a student feels upset because a friend didn't invite them to a party, they can reflect on their feelings instead of blaming the friend, helping them understand their emotions better.
The Choice
Should Bjorn address Hana's mistake directly or just focus on fixing things?
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 10.237773972602742
- Word Count
- 292 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Bjorn and Hana are working on a group project for school. Hana, who is usually very organized, forgets to bring a crucial part of their project on presentation day. Bjorn feels frustrated and blames Hana for their potential failure. However, he remembers a lesson from his mentor about self-responsibility and reflecting on one's own reactions. Bjorn realizes he can either continue to blame Hana and feel upset, or he can focus on how he can help solve the problem. They still have some time before their presentation, and Bjorn considers whether to focus on fixing the issue or dwelling on the mistake. Bjorn now faces a choice: (A) tell Hana directly that forgetting was irresponsible so she takes it more seriously next time, or (B) skip the blame and immediately start working together to salvage the presentation.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Tell Hana directly that forgetting was irresponsible so she takes it more seriously next time, even if it stings
Skip the blame and immediately start working together to salvage the presentation with what they have
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does self-responsibility apply here?
- 3
What are the consequences of each choice?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Bjorn here?
- 5
Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
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