The Dichotomy of Control: Talia must choose to do Chen's work or focus on her own.

By EpictetusCharacter Development2 min readGrade 7.9
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a student who worries about their grades, feeling stressed over what their teacher thinks. If they focus instead on studying and doing their best, they can feel more in control and less anxious about the outcome.

The Choice

Talia must choose to do Chen's work or focus on her own.

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.94462915601023
Word Count
340 words
Published
Mar 23, 2026

The Dilemma

Talia and Chen are working on a group project at school. Talia is worried because Chen, her partner, hasn't done his part yet. Their project is due tomorrow, and Talia feels stressed about their grade. She knows she can't control Chen's actions, but she can choose how to respond. Talia considers two options: she could do Chen's part herself to ensure a good grade, or she could focus on her own work and let Chen handle his responsibility. Talia now faces a choice: (A) complete Chen's part of the project herself or (B) focus on her own work and let Chen be responsible for his part.

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Responsibility
vs
Loyalty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Do Chen's part herself

B

Focus on her own work

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does the principle of control apply here?

  3. 3

    What are the consequences of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Talia here?

  5. 5

    Think about a similar situation you faced. Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

The Dichotomy of Control — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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