Overview
Imagine a student preparing for a big exam. They can control their study habits and effort, but not the questions that will be on the test. By focusing on their preparation rather than worrying about the exam's outcome, they can feel more confident and less anxious.
The Choice
Talia must choose between talking to Chen or doing the work herself.
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 8.921792717086834
- Word Count
- 357 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Talia and Chen are working on a group project for their science class. The project is due soon, and they've been putting in a lot of effort. However, Talia notices that Chen has been distracted, spending more time chatting with friends online than contributing to the project. Talia feels the pressure because their grade depends on this project. She wonders if she should talk to Chen about focusing more on the project or just continue doing most of the work herself to ensure they get a good grade. Talia knows she can control her own effort and how she communicates with Chen, but she can't control Chen's actions or responses. Talia now faces a choice: (A) Talk to Chen about sharing the workload or (B) Continue doing most of the work herself.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Talk to Chen about sharing the workload
Do most of the work herself
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does 'The Dichotomy of Control' apply here?
- 3
What are the possible consequences of each choice?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Talia here?
- 5
Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
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