Overview
If a classmate teases you, instead of getting upset, you take a deep breath and remind yourself that their words don't define you, allowing you to respond calmly and confidently.
The Choice
Diego must choose to confront Alex or help Jae focus on positivity.
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 8.21472074468085
- Word Count
- 235 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Diego and Jae are at school during lunch break. Jae is feeling upset because another student, Alex, made a rude comment about Jae's new haircut. Diego notices Jae's mood and asks what happened. Jae explains the situation, feeling hurt and embarrassed. Diego wants to help Jae feel better but isn't sure how to react. He could either confront Alex about the comment, which might escalate the situation, or he could help Jae focus on the positive aspects of their day and ignore Alex's words. Diego now faces a choice: (A) Confront Alex about the comment or (B) Help Jae focus on positivity and ignore the insult.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Confront Alex about the comment
Help Jae focus on positivity
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does the principle of self-control apply here?
- 3
What might happen if Diego confronts Alex?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Diego here?
- 5
Have you ever had to decide how to react to an insult?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Epictetus
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