Overview
If a classmate teases you, instead of reacting angrily, you take a deep breath and remind yourself that their words only have power if you let them affect you.
The Choice
Should Bjorn hold Hana accountable now or save the conversation for later?
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 9.967709731543625
- Word Count
- 298 words
- Published
- Mar 23, 2026
The Dilemma
Bjorn and Hana are working on a school project together. Bjorn is excited to present their work, but Hana accidentally spills juice on the project moments before they need to present. Frustrated, Bjorn feels a surge of anger and the urge to blame Hana in front of their classmates. Hana looks apologetic and offers to explain the mishap to the teacher. Bjorn remembers a lesson about self-control and realizes that his anger is his own reaction to the situation. He takes a deep breath and considers his options. Bjorn now faces a choice: (A) tell Hana right away that she needs to be more careful, because addressing mistakes in the moment prevents them from happening again, or (B) say nothing about the spill and focus on fixing the project together, because the presentation matters more than assigning blame right now.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Tell Hana right away that she needs to be more careful, because addressing mistakes in the moment prevents them from happening again
Say nothing about the spill and focus on fixing the project together, because the presentation matters more than assigning blame right now
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does self-control apply to Bjorn's situation?
- 3
What are the consequences of each choice?
- 4
How might Epictetus advise Bjorn here?
- 5
Turn & tell: What would our class consider the proper action here, and why?
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Philosophical Perspective
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