Acceptance of Nature's Course: Should Sade focus on winning or support Zola?

By EpictetusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 7.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

A child learns that not every game can be won, and instead of being upset about losing, they focus on enjoying the game and supporting their teammates. This acceptance helps them stay positive.

The Choice

Should Sade focus on winning or support Zola?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.4
Word Count
304 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Sade and Zola bonded over a school project two years ago and haven't stopped talking since. They've been training hard for the upcoming championship match, which is crucial for their team. On the day of the match, Sade is feeling the pressure to perform well, as everyone is counting on her. During the game, despite their best efforts, their team is losing. Sade notices that Zola, who is usually a star player, is having an off day and seems upset. Sade is torn between focusing on her own performance to help the team win or supporting her friend who clearly needs encouragement. As the final minutes of the game approach, Sade realizes that winning might not be possible today. She

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Fairness
vs
Loyalty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Focus on winning the game.

B

Support Zola and boost her morale.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How might Sade feel if she focuses solely on winning?

  3. 3

    What could happen if Sade chooses to support Zola?

  4. 4

    How might Epictetus advise Sade in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Epictetus

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Acceptance of Nature's Course — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Acceptance of Nature's Course — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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