Overview
When a friend accidentally hurts your feelings, remembering that they didn’t intend to can help you forgive them and maintain the friendship.
The Choice
Should Ben forgive Ruby or stay upset?
Quick Stats
- Grade Band
- Grades 6-8
- Reading Level
- Level 7.3
- Word Count
- 248 words
- Published
- Jun 6, 2025
The Dilemma
Ben and Ruby have been inseparable since the third grade, always pushing each other to try new things. One day during practice, Ruby accidentally kicks the ball too hard, hitting Ben in the face. Ben feels embarrassed and a bit angry as everyone laughs, but he knows Ruby didn't mean to hurt him. Later, Ruby approaches Ben, apologizing sincerely and explaining that it was an accident. Ben is still upset and unsure whether to forgive her. He remembers how Ruby has always been there for him, helping him with homework and cheering him up when he's down. Ben Something has to give.
Values in Tension
This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:
Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.
Your Options
Forgive Ruby and stay friends.
Stay upset and distance himself.
Questions for Reflection
Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.
- 1
What would you do, and why?
- 2
How does forgiving Ruby help Ben?
- 3
What might happen if Ben stays upset?
- 4
How might Marcus Aurelius advise Ben in this situation?
- 5
Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?
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Philosophical Perspective
Insights from Marcus Aurelius
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