Self-Reflection in Relationships: A Friendship Dilemma

By Marcus AureliusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 10.4
Classroom
Intermediate

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Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 10.4
Word Count
304 words
Published
Jan 19, 2025

The Dilemma

Parvati and Olivia bonded over a school project two years ago and haven't stopped talking since. They often spend weekends together, sharing secrets and supporting each other through school challenges. Recently, Parvati confided in Olivia about her plan to audition for the school play, something she was both excited and nervous about. Olivia promised to help Parvati practice her lines and give her honest feedback. However, as the audition day approached, Olivia became increasingly busy with her own commitments and failed to show up for their practice sessions. Parvati felt disappointed and let down, as she had relied on Olivia's support. Now, Parvati must decide how to handle her feelings and their friendship. Parvati

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Loyalty
vs
Honesty

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Talk to Olivia about feelings.

B

Keep disappointment to herself.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How might Parvati's expectations affect her friendship?

  3. 3

    What are the pros and cons of each choice?

  4. 4

    How might Marcus Aurelius advise Parvati in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Marcus Aurelius

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Self-Reflection in Relationships — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Self-Reflection in Relationships — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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