Focus on Just Action: Should Bolanle invite Alex or leave him alone?

By Marcus AureliusRelationships & Social Skills2 min readGrade 8.4
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

A teenager decides to help a classmate who is struggling with homework, even if others think it's uncool. They focus on doing what they believe is right rather than worrying about fitting in.

The Choice

Should Bolanle invite Alex or leave him alone?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 8.4
Word Count
315 words
Published
Jun 6, 2025

The Dilemma

Bolanle and Vera bonded over a school project two years ago and haven't stopped talking since. One day, during lunch, they notice a new student, Alex, sitting alone. Bolanle feels a strong urge to invite Alex to join them, believing it's the right thing to do. However, Vera is hesitant, worried about what their other friends might think if they start hanging out with someone new. She mentions that some of their friends might think it's uncool to include Alex, who is a bit different from everyone else. Bolanle understands Vera's concerns but also feels a sense of responsibility to act kindly and justly. She recalls a time when she was new and someone reached out to her, making a huge difference in her life. Bolanle What should they do?

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Compassion
vs
Autonomy

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Invite Alex to join them.

B

Leave Alex alone.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    Why might Vera be worried about inviting Alex?

  3. 3

    What are the benefits of including someone new?

  4. 4

    How might Marcus Aurelius advise Bolanle in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from Marcus Aurelius

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Focus on Just Action — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Focus on Just Action — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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