Self-Control as a Virtue: Should Zoë attend soccer practices or join her friends?

By John LockeCharacter Development2 min readGrade 7.5
Classroom
Intermediate

Overview

Imagine a teenager who wants to spend all their time playing video games instead of studying for a big exam. They know that studying is important for their future, but it's hard to resist the fun of gaming. This situation illustrates the challenge of self-control and making wise choices.

The Choice

Should Zoë attend soccer practices or join her friends?

Quick Stats

Grade Band
Grades 6-8
Reading Level
Level 7.5
Word Count
313 words
Published
Jun 7, 2025

The Dilemma

Zoë and Dante are best friends who love playing soccer. They both try out for the school team. Zoë is naturally talented but often skips practice to hang out with friends, while Dante works hard to improve his skills. The coach announces that there is one spot left on the team. Zoë is confident she'll get it because of her talent, but Dante's dedication has caught the coach's eye. The coach tells Zoë that if she can show commitment by attending all practices for the next two weeks, the spot is hers. However, Zoë's friends have planned a series of fun activities during the same two weeks, and they really want her to join. Zoë

Values in Tension

This dilemma explores the tension between two important values:

Self-Discipline
vs
Responsibility

Consider how these values might conflict or complement each other in this situation.

Your Options

A

Attend all soccer practices.

B

Join friends for fun activities.

Questions for Reflection

Take a moment to consider these questions. There are no "right" answers – the goal is to explore different perspectives and develop your own reasoning.

  1. 1

    What would you do, and why?

  2. 2

    How does Zoë's choice reflect self-control?

  3. 3

    Why might it be hard for Zoë to choose practice over fun?

  4. 4

    How might John Locke advise Zoë in this situation?

  5. 5

    Can you recall a time in your own life when you faced a somewhat similar choice or feeling? What did you do?

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Philosophical Perspective

Insights from John Locke

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Lesson Plans

Quick Fire5 min

Self-Control as a Virtue — 5-10 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify the core ethical tension
  • -Make a quick, reasoned choice

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.Which option did you choose, and why?
  • 2.What would you give up with each choice?
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Standard15 min

Self-Control as a Virtue — 15-20 minutes

Learning objectives:

  • -Identify competing values
  • -Articulate trade-offs

Discussion prompts:

  • 1.What would you lose by choosing each option?
  • 2.Is there a third path?
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